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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Pick-me-SIL on 2023-09-01 14:27:42.

So my (24M) bf (22M) has dyspraxia, but didn’t get diagnosed until he was 19. For those who don’t know, it impacts someone’s relationship with movement, fine motor movement, balance and sometimes spatial awareness.

So my bf gets himself hurt a lot, but he never makes a super big deal out of it, partially because he’s used to it and partially bc he always got in trouble as a kid for being so clumsy.

Yesterday we visited my parents, my brother (31M) and his wife (33M) were there. My bf headed to the kitchen and walked into the door handle. I could tell it hurt but he tried to brush it off, I didn’t make a big deal as I know he doesn’t like attention being brought to things like that. But my parents got concerned and checked on him.

As the day went on a few more small things happened. Each time my parents would check on him. Near the end of the night, after we had had a few drinks, we were both walking and he accidentally walked into me, after my parents checked up on him again I could tell he was getting a bit uncomfy so we stepped outside.

My drunk SIL followed us, she started angrily telling me to get my bf under control, he wasn’t the only one here to see my parents and that he kept taking all the attention and he needed to stop being such a pick-me girl and that he was being clumsy on purpose.

My already tipsy bf got pretty upset, he had been uncomfy at the level of attention and concern my parents had been giving him, he had been called clumsy by his parents all the time as a kid, so he started to tear up, which made him feel worse bc he hates crying (something he also use to get in trouble for)

My SIL made another comment, how now he’s crying so he can get all the attention and I yelled at her, my parents had been talking to her all day and while they had been checking up on my bf when he has hurt himself, they have given her plenty of attention and, using her own words against her, she wasn’t the only one here to see my parents.

She then started crying and ran inside to get my brother, he came out pissed that I upset his wife, but calmed down as soon as he saw me comforting my bf. He told me that he’d call me later and got his wife and they left.

I called a ride home and apologised to my parents, thanking them for having us over, they tried to comfort my bf again but I told them hes uncomfortable with people checking up on him, to which they apologised but I told them it was fine as they didnt know.

Me and my brother have yet to have that call and my SIL has been texting me saying that i was now causing problems with her marriage and that i should have stayed out of it since this didnt concern me and was an issue between her and my bf as hes, in her words, obviously jealous my parents like her better than him. Ive ignored her, but the fact that shes now sober and still upset, and that i was also drunk during the argument has me wondering if I should have handled it differently. So AITA?