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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/missvvvv on 2023-09-01 20:00:53.
Today I met a Tinder match. He’s not from my country, he’s from Canada. Without being disrespectful (because I, DISAPPOINTINGLY, did not learn anything about his culture), this man is “Native” Canadian. I do not know how to name/ clarify this information, I apologise for any offence I may have caused. Stating culture is relevant to this story.
This “gentleman” spent the entirety of our date talking about himself and how culturally sensitive he is. He claimed to have come to my country to meet his “people”. Claiming that the native people of my country were the same people as the native Canadians. Cute but definitely not the same people.
Now me, being as white as the freshly fallen snow, and just being a generally polite and good person, assumed that he was coming from a place of authenticity. Ha! Asking questions, I was talked over, ignored, smirked at and ultimately pooh poohed. Being ADHD & autistic I chalked it up to me being my usual neurodivergent self and let the disrespect slide.
The evening progressed with;
- me apologising for accidentally offending him and his culture, with no explanation as to how I offended;
- me paying for everything (into the hundreds of dollars) including Ubers & entrance fees
- me sacrificing my desire to go dancing because this loser preferred the company of “his people”, little did he know the people he was talking to are not indigenous to my country, go figure 🤷♀️
- the bars closing and us ending back at my apartment where I emerged from the bathroom, to find him in my bed
- upon being shooed into the living area and reprimanded for invading my private space (no apology forthcoming mind), he suddenly decided I had stolen his phone
- whilst he conducted his search of my living area I went to my bedroom, door firmly closed, to change from my party apparel into my home clothes. As I’m pulling on a t-shirt, arms raised, no bra on, this guy opens the door to accuse me of stealing his phone. He opened the door to the sight of my bare breasts, without so much as a “how do you do”. No apology given.
Outraged, I pull apart my living room, trying to find this person’s phone. No luck. Finally I call his phone, the ringing comes from under one of my couches. He pulls it out. I finally lose my shit at him for his incredibly rude and disrespectful behaviour, telling him to get out and leave me alone.
This guy’s response…? You’re a white colonialist, you don’t understand me or my people, I did nothing wrong and you need to calm down.
Wow!
Right now, I’m seeing white hot anger. I apologise for formatting, ranting, etc… I really needed to get it out.
Imagine bending over backward, spending loads of money to accommodate someone & when they turn out to be a straight up cnnt, they play the race card. I’m ropable right now!