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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Sarcastic_Mnt_Goat on 2023-09-01 19:32:43.

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So I ended up letting him know that his behavior was unacceptable and that it made me no longer want be with him. I also pointed out some of the other things that he was doing that was making me want to leave.

He tried to call me immediately but I did not answer. He sent me a long text message basically explaining that he was sorry and that he can change blah blah blah. I ignored it because I know that especially within two months of getting to know someone, I should not have to tell someone to respect me.

One thing about this guy is that he introduced me to a DND event that happens at a Meadery every Wednesday. This is a public event hosted by the Meadery itself and anyone is allowed to join, all you have to do is get the QR code from the bar and sign up.

I decided to sign up however since his table was full, I ended up signing up for a campaign at a completely different table. This means that every time we went there, we would play at different tables in different rooms.

That being said, the past two months I have made a lot of friends without his interference or presence, I made friends with the DM, with the other players at my table, and with the brewers who work at the Meadery, we all really hit it off and it was fun.

When I ended things with him last Friday, I questioned wether or not I should go to DND night since he was going to be there. I made the decision to go because I wanted to see and play with the friends I have made there. In addition, I was not bothered by the fact that he was going to be there because I have not developed a strong enough emotional connection with him while we were together to feel upset at his presence. To me, he was just a guy I briefly dated, I don’t really consider him an ex.

I showed up and it was super fun. I played DND with my friends and everything went smoothly, even when my “ex” was around. The evening rolled by and I hung out with everyone and chatted after the game was over. Then I waved goodbye to everyone and went home.

Later, I got a text message from him at 3am saying “hey so last night was really weird and awkward, can we talk?”. I did not respond until 8:30am and I replied “yea sure what’s up?” He said “ok so I was kind of surprised that you showed up to the Meadery last night after what happened, but if you are gonna do that then we need to talk and clear the air” I said “ok what do you have to say?” He said “I want to talk to you in person, texting looses a lot of nuance and I want to limit communications. It doesn’t have to be today but it needs to be soon” I said “Although these people are your friends, don’t forget that this is a public community where fresh faces show up every day. This is a public event hosted by the Meadery itself and I have just as much of a right to be here as you do. I am allowed to continue seeing the friends I have made there regardless if I am with you or not.”. He said “I understand but we need to talk”. I said “well if you want to talk to me, you going to have to wait as my schedule is pretty busy, it will have to be next week when I am at the Meadery again, you can talk to me after the session”

I honestly don’t have anything left to say to this guy, I don’t believe I owe him this but I would like to see if we can leave things on a positive note so that it doesn’t feel tense when he is around. I am preparing to have this conversation outside of the Meadery so that I can walk back in if he starts being rude again and I am preparing to say “you are going to need to grow up” if he starts complaining about my presence causing him discomfort.

I really like this DND group, this Meadery, and the friends I have made here and I don’t want to leave them just because I didn’t want to be with this guy.