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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/NoticeAdventurous571 on 2023-09-01 20:28:55.

I talked to my nephew this isn’t an issue anymore he wants to take over, we are going to switch the order. He will take care of sister and get the inheritance. Now my son doesn’t have to choose.

Hello my nephew is helping me with this. I am 56 and just finalizing my will. I have two children, Jack and Marge. Marge is disabled and can’t look after herself. My wife and I take care of her at them moment. Our biggest worry is that when we die she will not be taken care of.

Our family has good amount of money, it is enough that you could probably get by without working for the rest of your life and still have money left over. We are very fortunate and just got lucky for a lot of things. ( we bought cheap houses long ago and now worth a ton due to the location).

We made our will, that Jack only gets the money if he takes care of her. If he doesn’t he doesn’t get the money and it will go to my nephew who has the same condition. We have a few other backups but I know my nephew would do it if my son didn’t.

It came up today asking what will happen to marge when we die and I explained since I didn’t want to lie and it be a shock when we are dead. My son is pissed and the family is split so I came here.

Yes we looked into a trust it’s not a safe option, there is a huge chance the money can be taken to her due to the laws surrounding it. We are not in the USA. We talk d to multiple lawyers this is the sad test option of her.