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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Chaos_Theory0723 on 2023-09-01 22:45:42.

Most waitress jobs have an app so you can see your shifts and pick up extra ones. You can see who else is working what shifts and can also send messages on this app: this is important for later.

So at my last job, I allowed others to text my number so they can ask me to pick up shifts. This became ANNOYING because I was the first person they ask and it was anyways “an emergency”. They would start using my number for personal conversations and it sometimes got messy because someone would vent to me and then try to continue the conversation in the workplace, causing drama to follow. So now at my new job, I’ve decided to keep my work and personal life separate. And I would only communicate through the app. Now keep in mind I’m still really new to the place (I’ve barely been there a month) and I’ve already had people texting my number (I’m not sure if they’re getting it from the app or someone at the restaurant) asking me to pick up their shifts. Usually a quick “I don’t communicate work matters through my number, please send me a message through the app” gets them to stop. Not this time. A coworker texted me at 5am on Friday, asking if I could take her shift for Saturday. I shoot her the line I send everyone. She’s starts texting like “oh it’ll only take a second, this way is just faster” I reiterate I will not communicate through my number and to message me through the app. She continues with “but you’re already here and I’ve already asked so just take my shift” now I was already working that Saturday night, so not only is she asking me to take her shift, she’s asking me to work a double. I send her the line again. She says that it’s an emergency and that she NEEDS me to cover her shift. I tell her I’m not discussing it any further and that I’m already working Saturday anyways. I then block her number. I go to work, and am approached by a manager. She asked me why I didn’t show up that morning. I’m confused so she tells me that the coworker said I had agreed to take the shift. I show her the messages. She says okay and goes to the back office. I get angrily approached by the coworker on Monday about how I said I’d take the shift and now she has a write up because I didn’t show. (She has a write up for “no-call no-show”). I told her I agreed to nothing and even told her I don’t use my number to swap shifts. Conversation goes as so- Coworker- “but you said you’d work Saturday!” Me- “no I said I already work on Saturday” Coworker- “then why didn’t you say anything when I thanked you for taking it?” Me-“ cause I blocked you, I didn’t even see that message” She starts going off about how I’m so rude and inconsiderate and she just needed me to take one shift. I told her it’s not my problem she didn’t get her shift covered. So I know I’m not TA for not taking her shift, but did I take it to far when I blocked her instead of just answering throughly text?