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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Ashcourtz on 2023-09-02 09:22:59.

I stopped at 711 on my way to work the other night, I go in at 11. So it was about 1030 when I stopped at the 711. The homeless man was standing by the door and he opened it for me to walk in, I smiled and said thank you. Went in and bought my things and went to leave. The homeless man again opened the door for me, and again I smiled and said thank you. I’ve seen him here before, he’s pretty clearly homeless. Very tall. Oversized clothes on. He says “hey ma can I talk to you?” I said oh no I’m sorry I’m running late for work I’ve got to go… he follows me to my car, that I got into but had left running so the window was open. He’s like here just take my number. So I said no I normally come back in the morning anyway maybe I’ll see you later. He replied nah ill be in the park sleeping I won’t even be here… so he’s in my window and it became very apparent to me the parking lot was completely empty. Idk what he might have on him and I don’t want to piss him off so I said ok and took his number thinking that would be enough. But he wouldn’t walk away until I called him. So I called him. So now he has my number. But I blocked the number when I got to where I was going, he had already texted me. I feel really gross by this situation and what he said to me which was along the lines of wanting to be the one who’s fucking me right and I don’t have to be shy I can talk to him dirty.

So I tell my boyfriend about it. He asked why I would give this man my number and I explained it to him as best I could, that I was just trying to get out of the situation. He apologized I had to go through it. Then the next day I showed him the texts. I’ve been met with questions about how I could have or should have handled this differently? Why did I park so far away in an empty lot? I must have engaged him. I shouldn’t have given him my number. How did I get myself into that situation? That I have a cat Keychain with knuckles for a reason. And then I said well, some men get really angry at rejection and I wasn’t willing to take my chance considering I already said no. I shouldn’t have to worry about a grown ass man when I’m not doing anything wrong.

He does not get it. He said oh its so hard being a women. Such a fucking victim.

I just wanted a little support from him, we were fighting at the time so I hadn’t told him about it when it first happened, but I also wanted to be honest incase it ever came up in my phone or something. Idk. I’m upset. Why is it so hard to fathom that I did what was safest in the moment? Did I?