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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Ok-Walk7881 on 2023-09-02 15:05:28.

Context, my relationship with my mother has been going downhill for quite some time, same for my siblings and my Stepfather. It reached what I thought was it’s lowest possible point about a year and a half ago, when my Mother slept with one of the patrons at the Bar she worked at. Things were very tense, and awkward for a while, but eventually her and my Stepfather reconciled, and we ended up moving into a new house about a year later.

Unfortunately, it came to my attention about a month ago that my Mother was sexting with a different separate bar patron. When I learned about it from my Stepfather, I had no concrete evidence about it, so I asked her point blank if it was true. She proceeded to lie to me, stating that I had no right to ask her those kinds of questions, and began yelling about how I don’t pay rent(even though she never asked me to), and when i pointed that out, she stated that i was supposed to do work around the house, as it wasn’t in the best shape when we bought it. I responded by pointing out that she doesn’t give me anything to do, there’s no list that says what needs to be done that week, and I’m just left to figure it out.

After that, I called my Stepfather’s bluff, and told him to send me the screenshots he had. He then did so.They were heartbreaking, and infuriating. I confronted her about it the next day. She apologized for lying to me, but not for belittling and insulting me the day before. She justified her actions by saying, quote: “I’m tired of waiting for your Stepfather to put me first”. I haven’t forgiven her, and we’ll probably argue about it when I get home from vacation. Am I the asshole?