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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Strawberrie44 on 2023-09-02 18:32:26.

I (30,f) have been with my (30, m) boyfriend for 5 years. We both have good jobs and he was recently promoted so earns more than me now. He has been talking about how hard it is to work 37hrs a week and maintain a tidy house and upkeep with chores. We split bills and chores, but recently he’s kept asking me if I would consider staying at home and not working to do all the chores, and he’ll pay all the bills. I have an Etsy shop where I make a little bit of money each month and he said I can keep doing that, but that he would pay for shopping etc. I have never wanted to be a stay at home wife or mum, and we don’t have kids, or want them anytime soon, and he doesn’t ever want to get married. For reference, I have a few hobbies outside of work and he likes to game and sees friends but we aren’t crazily busy - we can do the chores we need to between us.

My concern is that I’m not earning enough to support myself without him, and I won’t be earning or contributing to my own savings when I want to stop working and retire. I joked about the wage he would pay me to do all the chores and he said he would pay for food shopping and that’s it. Without my very minimal online sales I would have nothing as I have very little in savings.

I said I didn’t want to be a stay at home girlfriend and he’s getting really funny with me and keeps bringing it up saying I’m being unreasonable. He said he would be happy to be the one that stays at home if I could provide for both of us on my salary but I can’t, and I wouldn’t want him to do that. AITA for saying no?