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The original was posted on /r/exmormon by /u/Lowkey_Iconoclast on 2025-07-17 02:44:53+00:00.

For the last four years, I (28Mish) was the only member of my immediate family who had left the Church. My late sister, who died a year and a half ago, was on her way out before her death. Now, my oldest sister is out and done for good, but the biggest surprise of all came a few weeks ago.

My wife (28F) has made the decision to leave the Church.

I left four years ago, and for most of those years, my wife was a ProgMo, trying to balance her concerns for social justice and equal rights with her spirituality. She was in a group of likeminded individuals who read books and discussed religion. According to her, my wife initially had hopes I would come back to church. But after General Conference October 2024, my wife began to realize that she opposed the Q15 and the Church hierarchy. From there, things unraveled. She stopped going to the temple altogether, then she asked to be released from Primary. Now, she has been wearing new clothes that show she doesn’t wear garments anymore.

I am shocked at how fast it came (fast in my mind), and I am overjoyed. It still hasn’t fully sunk in. A few years ago, I posted that ProgMos are not the enemy, and that they are allies. I stand by what I said, in that I think that ProgMos are the future of people leaving the Church, leaving for mostly the right reasons. I know not everyone agrees, and I don’t blame them. I am queer, and a big part of my wife leaving was the Church’s treatment of queer members.

The flair is more of advice, that people can change, and in time, it will be worth the journey for them to leave the Church.