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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/NatesAsteroid on 2023-09-02 20:26:36.

Hello Reddit!

My (35m) wife’s (35f) friend (36f) is getting married in a month. My wife is a bridesmaid. I am not a fan of this friend. But that’s just me, so I’m gonna move on to the real issue.

This friend wants to have her dream wedding (according to wife) but Is a little short on money. My wife had told me that friend would like some donations and if I was okay with her donating about $3,000 (?) In usd. I told her no. She accepted my decision but my friends are saying I’m an Assshole because donating wouldn’t affect my financial standing. I’m now wondering if i was actually In the wrong.

Reasons I don’t like said friend:

When my wife and I were dating, she always encouraged her to leave me and that “she could do better.”

Has made many remarks about my physical appearance (I have eczema so my skin can get dry frequently. Also I itchced a lot as a kid so I have bruises and cuts on my fingers and arms.)

So reddit, am I the AH? (I’ll try my best to answer any questions. )