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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/E_Turnips_97 on 2023-09-02 22:28:57.

I can’t believe I’m even asking this, but my long time friend is basically “breaking up” with me, so to speak, over this, so I need to know.

It is relevant to know that my 6yo daughter is an extremely picky eater/drinker. She will just eat/drink nothing at all if she doesn’t have her safe foods. I have tried many ways to help this, including food therapy, but she is still extremely particular about what she will eat or drink.

So my 6yo daughter and I, 38f, were out of state at a cheer competition. I had brought along foods and drink I knew my daughter would eat and I had exactly enough of her particular juice boxes for the weekend.

The third and final night in the hotel, we shared a room with my friend, call her Jane, 36F, and her 6yo daughter, call her Emma. Emma asked for a juice box, and I said “I’m so sorry, there’s only two left, I need to save them for tomorrow.” And I proceeded to offer her every other option there was instead.

Emma got very upset. VERY. UPSET. I don’t think there is any way I could have anticipated the level of reaction she had about not getting a juice box. Her mom told us to leave the room, so we did and they met us outside when she had calmed down.

I thought that was the end of it, but six months later (yesterday), my friend Jane decided to let me know how upset she actually is about it and that is made her “re-evaluate” our friendship. She thinks I should have given Emma a juice box and just found a store nearby and packed up my daughter and gone and gotten more. She says it’s so messed up that I hurt her daughter’s feelings so badly.

I, on the other hand, see it very differently. I would honestly never even let my daughter accept something from someone else if it meant they would then have to find a store and go buy more for themselves. I would have her drink the things that we brought for ourselves. I would never ever expect someone to be put out like that on her account. Even if it made my daughter disappointed for a few minutes.

So clearly we have fundamental differences in how we parent and what we feel our children are entitled to. This isn’t the first time that these differences have been noticeable. We have both noticed them before. But I never in a million years would have thought this situation would end our long friendship. I had absolutely zero foresight of that even being a possibility.

So give it to me straight, AITA or not??? Should I have just given her the damn juice and gone to the store for more?? Was it a total dick move to assume it wouldn’t be a big deal to tell her No and offer something else? Please, Reddit, help me understand!! 🙏