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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Some-Staff4800 on 2023-09-02 23:10:58.

I have 2 kids, 17M and 16F. Both of them have jobs.

My kids are different in every way possible.

My son usually saves his money and when he does spend it hes cheap with it. He has a lot of money saved from when he started working. He only spends large amounts around his birthday or christmas for himself or for the family. He enjoys cooking and hes a damn good cook. He has cooked for the family before. He has leftovers, and they’re his unless he says otherwise.

My daughter is the opposite, she buys a lot of stuff with her money. She still leaves enough saved over in case she needs to buy food or toiletries. She doesn’t like cooking, so she eats what my wife or I cook.

The issue is my daughter has been stealing from my son recently. She’ll eat his leftovers, bring some to school. She goes into his room and wears his clothes or accessories to school. Her brother is of course upset by this. If she asked he might have said yes, but she doesn’t. Her defense for the food is that its in the fridge, anyone can take from it.

Her defense for the clothes is that it fits her style better, and she can’t find clothes like her brother wears. He’s given her the site its from, but she hasn’t bought clothes from there cause it’s pricey.

My son came up to me upset and asked if he could get locks for his room (some of the doors don’t have locks), and that he’s been saving up for a mini fridge. I decided that i’d pay for the mini fridge, and get him the locks. He has two keys for his room now.

My daughter is very clearly upset, but hasn’t said anything. My wife understands the mini fridge, but thinks the two locks is too much. She thinks its treating our daughter like a criminal. My MIL agrees with my wife. AITA?