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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/FriesWithMacSauce on 2023-09-03 01:18:23.

My sister (40f) and I (34m) recently lost our last remaining parent. We are both devastated, but regardless, the logistics all need to be worked out. Our parents were very clear in their will that our inheritance and all property are split evenly between the two of us. It’s to the tune of around $1 million.

Here’s where the problems start. I’m gay, I live with my partner who I’m not married to across the country from the rest of my family. My sister and her husband have 3 small kids under 11. My sister said that since it’s highly unlikely I’ll ever have kids (which still remains to be seen, I haven’t decided that yet) and because I live a comfortable life currently, that I should take at least a quarter of my inheritance money and open bank accounts for her kids.

Instead of using her own money to do that, she wants to buy a McMansion to get out of their smaller cramped house. Basically implying that her and her family need the money more than I do since they’re married with kids and I’m not. She thinks my parents were unfair when they created the will and that I should “do the right thing” to make up for their mistake.

Our entire family is split on the issue. My BIL is obviously on my sister’s side and says I’m being greedy and don’t care about my niblings’ future. Our aunts and uncles and cousins all have differing opinions, with the more homophobic side of the family saying I’m being a greedy asshole. This is causing a major rift and I’m worried that eventually she’ll cut me off and wont let me have a relationship with the kids anymore. Part of me thinks maybe they do need the money more than me. Maybe I should just let the money go. AITA?