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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Existing-Narwhal-742 on 2023-09-03 03:16:48.

Just want to start with thanking everyone who commented on my original post, I was honestly not sure whether I was right or in the wrong. It helped so much to be validated so thank you all again.

A lot has happened since I made my first post so I’ll try to condense it as much as I can.

After reading your comments and realising I actually do have a reason to want to spend a date alone with my girlfriend I decided to try to talk to her when she got home and also explain a few things to her that I did not realise myself until reading your comments, sometimes it’s hard to get your point across properly through text so it’s always best to speak face to face.

When my girlfriend came home later that day I tried to talk to her but she blew up and nothing really was solved so I tried again the next day and it went pretty much the same way, she was denying she had done anything wrong and telling me I was the one in the wrong. Eventually I just told her that I couldn’t do this anymore or be with someone who thinks that what she did was ok, I think this sent her into a panic because she became even more verbally aggressive to the point I just left the convo and didn’t talk to her. We barely spoke for a few days while I tried to figure out what to do until she came to me and asked to talk. She explained that she had thought about what I said to her when she came home and understood why I was upset. I then found out that her sister had been feeding her a lot of hate about me and explained that because of her mental health condition she can be very easily manipulated into a certain viewpoint, which I honestly do see. She apologised and I did tell her how hurt I was by everything and it will take a long time to get over this to which she said she understood. Some of you suggested placing boundaries in the relationship, I brought this up in the conversation, suggested a few boundaries and she has agreed to and respects this which I was quite shocked to hear.

Since that day things have been ok between us and we have been taking things slow, she has also come to the realisation that the relationship she has with her sister is extremely toxic and how manipulative she is. A fight happened between them a few days ago, I don’t really have the space to go into detail but it really put into perspective how narcissistic and manipulative she is.

My girlfriend has since again apologised to me for everything and I have accepted her apology. I can see how she was being manipulated by her sister. I’m not sure what will happen moving forward but just wanted to give an update as people have been asking and to let you guys know that things between my girlfriend and I have now been sorted.

Thank you all again for your comments on my first post, it really did help with resolving this situation! I just hope that my girlfriend doesn’t get sucked back into her sister’s way of thinking again. We will just have to wait and see!