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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Notastepmomanymore on 2023-09-03 14:08:53.

I (F30) had posted another AITA query a couple days back regarding whether I am an AH for not taking care of my step daughter Eve personally and instead hiring a baby sitter.

A lot of the comments blamed me for marrying a man with a child when I want to be Childfree. The comments made me see my situation more clearly and I left Dave.

I told him I get how the situation has changed and since I haven’t changed, I cannot spend next 11 years of my life raising a child or giving her issues cause I don’t want her around. He begged me to stay, but learning my lesson already I left. I am staying in a hotel now and will be meeting with lawyers tomorrow.

But half an hour ago I got a call from Eve’s mother. She yelled and screamed at me for ruining her life. I didn’t get it, I didn’t do anything to her. Turns out about a hour or so after I left, Dave took Eve back to her house and told her he can’t lose his marriage over a child that was a mistake. She said she can’t take her in or it would ruin her marriage. He told her she can take him to court and he will pay whatever child support he has to, but he won’t sacrifice his life so she can play house with her new guy.

She told me I have to take Eve in and that’s the only way she can save her marriage. That Dave will look after Eve as long as I stay with him too.

I told her I won’t. It’s not my responsibility anymore. Eve is her and Dave’s child. Not mine. And I no longer want to be with a man who keeps putting me in this position.

She screamed I was ruining her life.

AITA for refusing to take Eve in?