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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/doormatjared on 2023-09-03 13:47:31.

I’m (18) a freshman in college and I live in a double with this other guy (18). Before moving in, I tried contacting him on instagram to break the ice and also discuss stuff we would be bringing but he left every one of my texts on read so I assumed he didn’t like my approach. No biggie. He moved in before me and by the time I came, I found a lot of his stuff on what was supposed to be my side of the room so I asked him to move it. Not only did he have the audacity to ask me where he’d keep the stuff, he outright refused and it wasn’t until I threatened to report him that he complied.

Our relationship has not been good at all. If he’s not playing music hours into the night, he’s bringing people over and they sit on my bed. If it’s not that, he’s making messes in the room and not cleaning them up until told. But what has really pissed me off is his tendency of putting his food in my mini fridge without my permission ranging from stale leftovers to alcohol. His excuse is always “there was an empty space so I thought…”. I’d repeatedly told him not to do this without asking me and that I’d gladly allow him to use it if he just asked but apparently he’s too high above to be asking.

My final straw was when he put fucking laundry detergent in my fridge, LAUNDRY DETERGENT. And you wanna know what he said? One of his friends told him that refrigerated laundry detergent makes your clothes come out more cooler and silky. Hello logic? I told him to never put anything in my fridge ever again and if he did, I’d eat/use whatever it is because everything inside it would be mine. Eh? Yesterday I came back to find a plate of donuts and a pepsi can. He wouldn’t learn so I ate 2 of the donuts and left the other with a few bite marks. I also drank most of the Pepsi.

He came back, opened my fridge without my permission infront of me, and immediately asked me why I ate his food. I corrected him and said it was my food since it was in my fridge but he started ranting in frustration and I ignored him. He threatened to go to the RA and I told him to go ahead, so he did. The RA heard both our sides of the story and told my roomie that it was fair game since I’d warned him not to put his food in my fridge. Roomie tried throwing another tantrum but RA told him he should consider moving out because he clearly doesn’t understand how to share a room and respect boundaries.

Roomie has been quiet and it’s the most peaceful it’s ever been between the two of us but I can’t help feel like I shouldn’t have eaten his food and should have just taken it out instead.

AITA?