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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Weak_Ordinary_9324 on 2023-09-03 15:50:26.

I (25F) am not sure if it’s relevant but I’ve chosen a child-free life. About three months ago I got I started a new job and have just passed my probation period and now my bosses are sorting out my annual leave with me.

This boss said there’s one gap left for annual leave on Christmas and they’ve been saving it for me. According to him any new employees once they’ve passed the probation period will get the first Christmas off. Here’s the thing I don’t care if I work Christmas or not and I’ll be on my own this Christmas as I don’t celebrate it.

Two days later (This was three days ago) I had a colleague come up to me and she was talking about annual leave and asked if I would consider switching and my response was no. She then started going on about how she has kids and what I would be doing this Christmas and I just said no. She seemed moody and walked away.

Later that night I got home and my nephew video-called me from his mum’s phone. When she got the phone we caught up. Here’s the thing though. Before my sister gave birth to her son this happened and was in complete agreement with me in a previous workplace. I brought this up with my sister.

My sister said I’m being a bit selfish as I’m child-free and she has kids. She’s working and I’m not which means she won’t be able to see her kids for long on Christmas day. She also brought up the fact I’m not bothering to come up and see family this Christmas and will be spending three of the days phone-free so I won’t be communicating with anyone.

AITA for not giving up my annual leave to a mum with kids when I’m going to be off and she’s going to be working even though I don’t care if I work or don’t work?