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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Misty_Fragrance3629 on 2023-09-03 14:15:30.

So, just a few days ago, my mom found out about my child (a daughter), who, just a few months later, had the same name as her “enemy” and had been pestering me since then to change it to something else.

I (27F) went to a party held by my sister (30F), who just had her second child, and while we were chatting with everyone (friends, relatives, and some other people that I think are my sister’s coworkers), she brought up the topic of what would be my child’s name since I said that there were only two months until I had my first child, and she was really curious. I picked the name “Arabella” and even said that her nickname would be Ara,” and the people there agreed that the name was really pretty. The topic soon changed, and I thought nothing of it after that.

But recently, my mom suddenly chatted with me, asking me if I was really banning my child’s name, Arabella. I said yes, and then she said if I was really serious, especially when I knew that she (my mom) hated that name since it was the name of someone she hated in the past (from what I remembered, my mom gated that girl was really jealous of her or something like that), and I explained to her that it was just a name and I really liked the name and I wouldn’t change it.

She’s been messaging me nonstop since then, and I’ve just been ignoring it. I told my sister and dad about it while speaking with them, and they thought that it was just a name too, and I should just ignore it as well. My dad told me that if my mom pestered me again, he would speak with her again (he told her off before).

I honestly don’t think I’m doing anything wrong, and I’m not even trying to annoy her with the name at all. I simply thought that it was just a really pretty name, but AITA?