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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Aware_Virus_9084 on 2023-09-04 06:17:47.

My husband and I are going to be in his sister’s wedding next summer. It’s out of town, about an 8 hour drive, and she expects us to pay $1k to stay at the venue for 4 nights. This already involves both of us using vacation time on thurs/fri. On top of that, we have to sleep on a futon couch, sharing the room with our 12 year old niece. I was willing to do that, but then started talking about bringing a pack n play for our baby. She asked if I was planning to have someone travel with us to watch the baby while we stayed. I told her no, as we wouldn’t need anyone to watch her, except for during the ceremony, in which case there is plenty of family there to hold her. She told me it is a kid free venue and I can’t bring the baby (her niece); not to the wedding, or to stay at the venue. I said I wouldn’t feel comfortable leaving my child for 5 days, and she just said oh, well…she can’t come. Of course I wouldn’t mind if it was just for the wedding day, and I got a sitter for the day. But the fact that she wants us to stay at the venue for 5 days, pay quite a bit for the lodging, and leave my 8 month old at home 8 hours away is a bit insane to me. What do y’all think?

** edit for clarification: the venue allows children. She does not want them there. Expect for her other niece, who is 12.