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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/princesspuffball on 2023-09-04 12:53:37.

When I moved into a two bedroom apartment with a classmate in my graduate program, like many new roommates we went shopping for household essentials together the week we moved in and split the bill. Toilet paper, paper towels, dish soap etc.

Several weeks into the living situation, my roommate approached me to ask why there was toilet paper in the waste basket of the bathroom because she knew it wasn’t her’s.

Honestly, I was kind of shocked at what I thought was an invasive and weird question but I answered that I had probably used it to blow my nose or remove some makeup.

She asked me why I did that instead of using tissues and I explained that I come from a frugal family and we tended not to spend extra money on things like Kleenex/Tissues when the the same basic product in another form, toilet paper, was available. In general we did not waste much and I have never been precious about little things like that.

She explained that she bought her own boxes of tissues for her room and told me that because we split the cost of the shared household items 50/50 I didn’t have a right to use more of the toilet paper than her, and not to use it for anything except… wiping my ass. She insisted that I buy my own extra toilet paper or tissues, and figure it out and not to use “our” toilet paper for anything other than its intended purpose.

I tried to push back and express that blowing my nose, or any other personal care application of the toilet paper, was a reasonable use of the product she was also entitled to. However, she really held the line and insisted I limit my toilet paper use and that she didn’t consent to me using something she paid for and acted like it was rude of me to argue about it.

I felt like a crazy person! Was I really an asshole when I used toilet paper for anything other than wiping my ass???

For those who may ask, we bought like a good deal 24 pack of toilet paper at a bulk store and never came close to running out, we both attended school on nearly full scholarships with generous stipends.