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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Msmagiclynne343 on 2023-09-05 02:16:42.

My daughter, (5F), is starting kindergarten tomorrow and has been extremely nervous all summer. While browsing Amazon, I came across “First Day of School” Chalk boards and bought one with chalk markers to do with my daughter the night before school starts. They came in the mail very quickly so I put them aside with a few other purchases as I didn’t need them for a few days and the family was getting ready to go away for a Labor Day vacation.

Cue tonight–the Monday before school starts. My daughter and I went to pick up some school supplies and then returned home to play in the pool in the yard. My husband (41M) refused to be outside with myself and the kids (I also have a 2M) because the weather was hot. He played video games for 2 hours. When the kids and I went inside at 6pm, I gave the kids baths (it was ‘my’ night) and then cooked dinner for everyone. After dinner, I sat down with Tegan to fill out the Chalk boards so it would dry for tomorrow’s picture (I also wanted to relax for a few minutes!)

Husband came storming in the living room where we were sitting. Immediately, he started arguing with me over the boards. He was upset because:

  1. I didn’t ask him before purchasing or show him what I was purchasing

  2. I didn’t inform him of the purchase

  3. I didn’t inform him what the boards were or when I was going to fill them out with my daughter

He accused me, in front of my daughter, of being selfish, inconsiderate and rude in regards to his feelings. He called me ‘disgusting’. When I suggested he sit down with us on the couch, he claimed he was still eating and therefore, not ready. When I reminded him the boards were about our daughter going to K, he replied that I ‘screwed up’ in not including him. I once again invited him to sit on the couch with us but he said no. He went into the kitchen and hasn’t spoken to me since even though I have been reminding him that WE will be taking pictures tomorrow and WE will be dropping her off together.

Was I an asshole in not sharing simple boards with him before purchasing? The whole point is for my daughter to hold them while WE celebrate this milestone with her–not to worry about who is filling them out. Did I ‘screw up’? I thought as parents we were suppose to be caring about our daughter and her worries about school! Was I the asshole?