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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Extension-Jeweler663 on 2023-09-05 08:15:10.

My(22f) parents passed away recently and have left everything to me and my sister (11f). My parents were wealthy and set up a trust for my sister and me. I can get access to it now, but my sister has to wait until she’s 21.

My sister is going to a boarding school abroad, and I’m working abroad. We are initially from a Southeast Asian country. Our family home is extremely huge and unoccupied as my parents have passed away. After discussing it with my sister, I decided I want to sell that house to help pay for her education. I don’t want to use her trust money because I believe it was set aside for her future after her studies, just like my parents did for me. My parents paid for my education, housing, etc.

Since I just started working recently, I can’t fully support my sister financially. We have three more houses, and I’ve decided to turn it into an Airbnb. The other 3 houses are just apartments and not as big as our main house.

My sister and I have no plan to return to our home country, so I don’t see the reason for keeping the house. Yes, the house contains lots of memories, but managing it would put a dent in my pocket.

My parents lived more comfortably than their siblings, so they would always help them out. However, my relatives always took advantage of their kindness. They were incredibly mean to me and my sister growing up. So, I don’t have a good relationship with them.

My mom had promised my cousin that she could have her engagement party at our place when she was young (like around 6/7?) we are desis, so the engagement party is going to be extravagant.

There is no written agreement about this, and my mom never once brought this up. My sister and I hate this cousin cause she used to bully us. My cousin freaked out when I said I would sell the house. She told me to wait for 7 more months before selling because she wanted to have her engagement party there. I refused and said for the 7 months, the house would be unoccupied, and I couldn’t be bothered to manage it. She said she could move in with her family. I stood my ground and said no.

Everyone on my mom’s side is pissed because I’m ruining my cousin’s life. Also, since they can’t afford to rent a hall, I’m being the AH. My lawyer said I’m in the clear here, and I don’t owe her anything. My bf and sister are on my side.

Some friends say I’m the AH because it’s legally right but morally wrong. My relatives are still harassing me. Aita?