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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/banana_milk193 on 2023-09-05 10:03:00.

⚠️Long post ahead⚠️

I’m just now dealing with the fact (I’m 24) that my mom really didn’t teach me hygiene. I hate that I’m saying this, I really do. Me and my mom have never had a good relationship, I feel like when she looks at me there’s some sort of regret there. I’ve learned to keep my private life to myself because if I bring it up she avoids the conversation, or it starts an argument. Examples can range from men I’m seeing, to mental problems I might be experiencing. Hell, I couldn’t even tell her when I got my first period, my best friends mom at the time helped me. Any who, the more I grow up, there more I’m realizing that I’m doing things wrong with my personal hygiene. Yes I wear deodorant and perfumes, take a shower, brush my teeth and try to be clean. I don’t necessarily think I’m dirty. But I’m seeing things like how I clean my body is probably wrong, and how I clean my hair, or clean my room clean is wrong. I never had a mother figure or father figure to teach me these things. I’ve watched yt videos but it just makes me feel more ashamed and embarrassed then help. Idk what to do, and being a plus size person makes things extremely hard. I can’t reach in certain spots like thinner people can. I’m not flexible enough to reach my hand from behind for certain things. So I accommodate and try to use my best of knowledge to help myself. I’m just looking for tips and tricks and maybe a lesson or two if someone is willing. Please try to be positive all of this is 100% how I feel.