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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Full_Record23 on 2023-09-05 08:56:20.

So I am a doctor (oncologist) in my 30s. My mother’s best friend (55F) got diagnosed with pancreatic cancer few months ago and I set her up with my colleague who specializes in pancreatic cancer and got her every possible care/advantage (early PET appointment, CTs, MRs, etc.) I was able to pull.

Now every time I go visit my mother and she is there (which is quite often), she basically grabs me and wants to speak about her diagnosis, about her chemo, if there is something else I could do for her like irradiation or surgery and what do I think about it. Sometimes it takes hours. When she was freshly diagnosed I was there for her to talk, but it starting to be a little to much. This weekend was my father’s 60th birthday and she was there. She sat next to me and kept talking and asking questions for about an hour. I excused myself and went to talk to somebody else but she kept following me and asking more questions even though I told her I don’t have answers for her and I cannot give my opinion since I am not her doctor. It continued until I left and I must say it really spoiled the party for me a little. Well, for my mother’s birthday I got trip to Paris for her and me for 2 weeks and when I told her, she asked if we could take her friend with us. I told her that if she wants to take her friend with her I will withdraw myself because I don’t really wanna go with her friend. She can easily go because she has chemo every two weeks so we would just have to go around her schedule. But I want to enjoy it with my mum and I am afraid I won’t be able with her friend there. I offered to give my spot to her friend and that they can go together but I knew my mum would refuse since she does not speak English nor French and is afraid of traveling without me. She told me that as a doctor I should be able to understand and give her nice possibly last vacation and we had an argument after.

So redit AITA?