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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Open-Move-567 on 2023-09-05 08:54:54.

Let me explain. But before that, try to stay calm and objective. I’m all for man hating when necessary, but I need advice from a clear and unbiased brain. Ok, so here lately, the last few times my husband and I have gotten into arguments, he ends up picking up some inanimate object and smashing it to bits. It’s nothing specific, just whatever is nearby at the time; a chair, home decor, whatever. We’ve been married for 15 years and hasn’t started occuring until more recently. I was unfortunately raised in an abusive home where I was getting hit all the time, so when he does this, I think it reminds me of that and gets me really nervous. I’ve done a lot of therapy and healing since then and have truly let go of my past, but I can’t think of any other reason him doing this is so unsettling and scary to me besides some still buried trauma I thought I had worked though already. He hasn’t even necessarily thrown things at me, just smashed them to bits in front of me. I thought of calling the PD (located in USA) to have them make him leave for the night since I felt unsafe but figured it wouldn’t be categorized as anything and I might be being a bit dramatic. I’m not saying I’m perfect either; he probably has reason to be mad at me (we’re having some disagreements about some comments I made), but his reaction doesn’t match the “crime”. For example, if someone said something like “you’re acting like a bitch” you’ll be very angry but not so angry that you’re about to punch their lights out or destroy your own home. I’m just trying to make sense of it. Thoughts? Sorry for the long winded rant.