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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/karaleigh216 on 2023-09-05 15:59:55.

I work in a nursing home and I’m 6 weeks pregnant with my second child. My first pregnancy, I had terrible morning sickness, reflux, and pelvic pain. I was basically throwing up every morning before working, struggling to get through the work day, and then going home to lay on the couch and cry. I told my boss early that I was pregnant because it was affecting my work performance and it was hard to hide that I was nauseous all day and could only eat bagels. Later in pregnancy, my pelvic pin was so bad that I would sometimes fall to the ground after standing up. My doctor dismissed it as normal so I just had to keep working full time while feeling awful.

I feel just as sick this time around. Fuck. It sucks. But the hardest thing is just not being able to say “I’m pregnant and I feel like shit.” I wanted to wait longer to tell my boss and coworkers but I don’t think I can.

It just feels so unfair. I’m expected to carry a baby while being super happy and pretending I feel great. My older coworker laughed about how I was miserable with my first pregnancy as if I wasn’t tough enough. That old school mentality of just needing to suck it up.

If men got pregnant, they’d have the entire pregnancy and the whole next year off. This is bullshit.