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The original was posted on /r/truscum by /u/[deleted] on 2025-09-04 11:09:33+00:00.

I knew I’d get downvoted for this. Some people will read “detransition” and dismiss without even reading further. I get the impression that most people here don’t actually want to support others, they just want to push their opinion of what’s right and wrong. That being said, thank you to everyone who has commented so far, I really appreciate it, and will try to reply to everyone.

Hello. I am strongly considering desisting. In other words, I haven’t transitioned yet, but I want to find a way to live my life without transitioning, just living in the sex I was assigned, in the way I’m most comfortable with. I’m doing this because I simply can’t see myself passing. And passing is the whole point of transition, in my opinion.

In an ideal world, I wish I had been born female, but that’s not possible. I am fully supportive of trans people, and I fully appreciate that when someone is able to pass, their quality of life increases tremendously. I understand that some detransitioners become trans-exclusionary (shall we call them TEDs? Trans-Exclusionary Detransitioners…). I deliberately avoid spaces which have that kind of people, e.g. I never use r~detrans and use r/actual_detrans instead.

While I was still trans, I aligned myself with the transmed community the most, because I agree there should be a requirement for gender dysphoria. So, what I want to know is… what are transmed’s general views on detransition?