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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Kystamark on 2023-09-05 23:21:31.

I (29f) have had a rocky relationship with my MIL but I won’t go into that now. This is about my son (10 months old). My son weighed 4.4kg at birth and currently weighs 10.3kg When my son was 6 weeks old my MIL asked to spend the day with him. I was not comfortable but my husband kept asking so one morning I packed enough breast milk to feed a baby for an entire week and sent my boy to my MIL. I kept calling my husband every hour to call his mother and check up on him. He told me the baby is fine. Fast forward in the evening I went to pick him up and my boy was as light as air and looked unconscious. Without questions, I bottle fed him because I thought he needed food and feeding directly from the breast will be too hectic for him. My boy finished a full bottle and was still crying. I started crying too and rushed him to the hospital. I am a first time mom. I can’t describe what happened to the fullest because I was panicking. The doctors set an IV on him right away. Later MIL told me my son was too heavy for a six weeks old, also she believes frozen milk is spoilt and babies need fresh milk so she didn’t feed him. She instructed me to leave my boy to him for 12 full hours and she kept saying he is fine but she didn’t feed him even a drop of milk. I was furious and promised to never leave my boy for him again. When he was 4 months, my SO again kept nagging and said his mom is worrying him about the baby and we should forgive her. I said no but gave in a month later. I only left the boy for three hours with her. I went to meet my boy crying and in pain. He was burning with a high temperature. I again rushed him to the hospital. Later found out MIL rubbed a balm with mentol and other herbs on him. Her reason being that when his daddy was born, he was very fair with lots of hair but my son is not so the cream will make him fairer with lots of hair. Again, she didn’t also feed him because as she said the baby is too heavy. This also past and I listened to my husband and calmed down. For the past month, my husband has started nagging about his mother wanting to spend the day with her grandson. He ask me everyday. I told him today that as long as I am his mother, his mother will never set eyes on my boy. I did not only give birth for his mom to murder my boy for me. AITA for refusing my MIL access to my son for a full day? My SO think am because everyone deserves forgiveness.