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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Habitualdreaming on 2023-09-05 22:03:09.

Since I’ve turned the age where the older women in my life had children, any sympathy or understanding went out the window. I’d come to them asking for help Or advice feeling overwhelmed with stuff, one time last year I just broke down a bit over my thesis and stress because I took too many classes (graduate school mistake first semester) and my aunt said that at my age, 22, she had kids already and wasn’t “huffing and puffing”.

I’m 23 now and I am still in grad school, my grandparents tell me that I have to prepare for having a husband and cooking and cleaning, by 23 my grandma had 2 kids. She said I am still a child by comparison to her, so she gives me a hard time to “test me”. I just stopped telling the family stuff. They get very judgemental And bring up extreme homophobic views (since I never had a bf they question if I am not straight) I just want to focus on school and myself. But I live with family still and I currently don’t make enough to move. I believed my family, they said friends are fake… so I didn’t have any but I’m trying to change now. They were very against my job but I’m working to try to get myself ready