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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/expectingguineafowl on 2023-09-06 04:31:41.

I’ve had this problem in my last 2 relationships where I’d be busting my ass working full time and my partners were unemployed “looking for work”, but would expect to split the household chores evenly between us. Isn’t it just a fact of life that if someone is working full time, the person who stays home all day not paying rent or doing anything at all should at least do most if not all of the chores?

I asked my current partner to empty the dishwasher today and he suggested we do it together, and I tried to decline in a nice way at first but he kept going and it felt like he needed a reality check. So I just had to be like look, you don’t do anything all day. I work in healthcare 7am to 6pm every day. It’s not fun, it’s not something I enjoy doing, and I’m not spending my day off cleaning up more shit when that’s what I do for 11 hours a day anyway. He tried to justify it by claiming he’s “doing work too just not getting paid for it” and I had to be like okay, well I have hobbies too so does that mean I have 2 jobs then?

It feels like this mindset has gotten so common with men these days and more and more are leaving the women to go to work, AND still expecting us to come home and do the housework too. I’m sick of being made to feel guilty for not giving up my limited free time so he can have an extra hour of free time in addition to the unlimited free time he already has. It’s disgusting and I’m tired of it.