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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/Apprehensive-Fail663 on 2023-09-06 06:55:46.

A year ago, I realized that my mom and dad sexualize me, especially during and after puberty.

My dad would whistle at me-like a cat caller- whenever I dressed very nicely for events. He would criticize my clothing, such as telling 11 year old me to not wear my favorite shorts even though I don’t wear them in public. Today, he commented that I shouldn’t be wearing a tank top because my chest could get boys’ attention and there have been a rise in rapes. That was the first thing he said after we haven’t seen each other in months. He also called my mom to tell her that my chest has gotten bigger, using the word “tits”. I was nearby so I heard what he said.

He did apologize, but he excused it as him not understanding current fashion, being overprotective, and knowing what young men think. He promised he’ll try to be more open and hopefully he’ll keep his word.

My mother excuses and most of the time defends his actions. She’s also somewhat obsessed with my sex life. My sex-ed was only about anatomy and abstinence. She would get angry and accuse me of wanting to have sex when I asked her more questions because I wanted to be more informed. When I wanted to get the HPV vaccine, my mom refused to help me find one that won’t cause issues with my immune system. I thought I could trust her since she’s a medical professional and I believed she wanted my best interest at heart. But, she didn’t so I haven’t gotten the vaccine.

My parents also would touch me inappropriately without my consent, such as groping/slapping my butt, squeezing my breasts, and (once) touching my privates.

I’ve seen other stories that are similar to mine and it makes me feel icky that parents sometimes sexualize their kids.