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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Hippocrates_HorseFce on 2023-09-06 07:55:28.

I (30M) have a twin sister “Anna” (30F), who is getting married in Spring. She invited me to her wedding via email, and I sent back an email saying that I wouldn’t be going. I didn’t even need to think about it - I made a decision years ago that I never wanted to see her again, so there’s no chance I’m attending.

She bullied me all throughout school and at home, and she got all the other pupils in our year to join in. They made fun of my weight, my autism, my physical disability, and the fact that I am gay. They essentially hate-crimed me every day, calling me a variety of slurs, stealing my things (including mobility aids!), etc.

I had PTSD for a while after I left school and I haven’t talked to her since. I also haven’t talked to my parents, who let all of it happen and didn’t care.

Anna replied by saying she was trying to re-kindle our relationship by inviting me, and she says she’s changed and she wants us to be as close as we once were (before she turned our entire school against me). She says that I should value my family more, and that I am an asshole for not even considering going to the wedding of my own sister, my twin.

Now my family are all harassing me with messages demanding that I attend, and everyone i’ve asked about the situation says practically the same thing: “But they’re family!” and “You need to value your sister more - we all did things when we were teenagers that we wouldn’t do now.”

So, reddit, AITA?