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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Different_Wing_3627 on 2023-09-06 07:32:41.

My Husband and I are competitive Ballroom Dancers and have danced together since we were children. My friend is getting married and as a wedding gift my husband and I have been giving my friend and her husband to be private dance lessons for their first dance. Three times a week we meet up with them for an hour to work on their routine. They have really improved and we feel they are ready for their first dance and beyond meeting us to practice their routine and keep it locked in they don’t need anything else.

Today my friend admitted to me that she doesn’t want me and my husband dancing at her reception as she feels it would steal the attention away from her and her husband as this is our job and we’ll always be so much better than them. I was quick to assure her that we had no intention of doing anything even resembling a routine and at most we’d just be having fun or doing a slow dance but she wasn’t happy with this and claimed that with how we move together even that would be too much.

I’m honestly shocked by this and more than a little hurt. We can easily tone it down to a normal standard of dancing and do so all the time at things like weddings for this very reason. We love dancing and the fact she wants us to just sit there and not join in the dancing all night long makes both my husband and I a little uncomfortable. He has suggested we just wait till everyone has a few drinks in them and then join in the dancing when it wont be noticed but I worry this could make us assholes as she’s asked us to not dance. That being said what else would we do after the meal? as it’s going to be hours and hours of dancing. The only thing I can think of beyond that is that we simply leave after the meal but I don’t want to seem like we’re angry either.

Edit: We have sent off some texts to non dancer friends who have seen us dance at weddings/we’ve danced at their weddings and asked if they felt we were attention grabbing or too flashy when we danced. They were confused about why we’re asking but assured us they never noticed anything like that.