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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Clear_Wedded920 on 2023-09-06 12:04:19.

I (27m) am engaged to Skye (26f) and we have our bridesmaids and groomsmen chosen already. My groomsmen are going to be Skye’s brother Kai, who is a great friend of mine, and my best friend Nick. Skye has her two closest friends as bridesmaids. I have a 24 year old stepsister who I am not close with and Skye has maybe seen twice in our seven year relationship. She is not in the wedding. She’s just a regular guest. This bothered my dad’s wife and she offered us 3k toward the wedding to include her daughter. We turned her down. Skye left the decision to me and I didn’t even need to consider it.

My dad and his wife are saying I’m unreasonable and I should accept the compromise because her daughter was 4 years old when I became her brother and they know she feels hurt that she wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid. They said she will be crushed on the day seeing Skye’s brother as my groomsman and knowing she wasn’t asked to be a bridesmaid as my only sibling.

I told them Skye and Kai are close and Kai is one of my closest friends. While Skye has met my stepsister twice and I never felt close to her.

They said the money should have made a huge difference and it was more than generous to offer that compromise.

AITA?