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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/pla-n-t on 2023-09-06 19:12:43.

Last night I was having sex with my boyfriend. He came in about 3 minutes. He said sorry and I said it’s okay you can just help me. I went to the bathroom to clean his stuff off of me and when I came back he was asleep snoring. I had to wake him up and I got angry. I felt like the intimacy was ruined and said it felt weird now since he had already started sleeping.

Before sex implied that he wanted me to give him oral but I knew he wasn’t totally clean down there. I also suffer from BV and have asked him in the past to be completely clean if we have sex. I had sex knowing he wasn’t completely clean and I was too tired to ask so I get that part of the blame is on me. But why do I have to ask??? I’ve asked so many times and he still doesn’t do it. Why do I need to be responsible for his hygiene? Shouldn’t me saying, “hey if you’re not clean, it will cause me a lot of discomfort after sex” be enough???

His lack of care for the situation stressed me out a lot and I stayed up pretty late and consequently, my BV is causing me discomfort. This isn’t the first time where he orgasmed first and then just left me to figure out myself (or didn’t clean himself). Im really tired and I’m still upset and I feel like I can’t say how I’m feeling without him becoming offended and just dismiss my feelings. His nonchalant behaviour towards me makes me feel like I’m completely overreacting but I don’t think I am??? Isn’t it wrong to treat your partner like this??