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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ilovemydad333 on 2023-09-07 02:56:16.

my mom left our life 10 years ago. since then my dad (41) has been raising me (16f) as a single parent. i love him so much, he sacrificed a lot for me, i really appreciate him for everything, but there is one thing that really bothers me a lot, he sleeps with a lot of women.

he’s a really attractive man and been very easy with women for as long as i can remember. he’s had a few gfs from time to time, none of them lasted very long. apart from that he goes out on dates quite often and i guess he probably has a fuckbuddy too. he’s careful not to bring his partners home when i’m at home, but there have been a few times when i’ve walked in on them. those were mistakes and he apologized. i should also say that he’s never neglected me for any woman.

now after all this you can say you have no right to be bothered but it is very hard for me to feel otherwise. because also my friends talk about it a lot. my friends call my dad dilf and i don’t like it. they don’t do it to bully me, it is just a joke, but it is a joke that bothers me.

two days ago i left my laptop open in the living room and went to the kitchen. my wp group with my friends was on the screen. my dad is not the kind of person who reads my messages or messes with my pc, but his eyes were caught on the message “i’d rather fuck the dilf.” when i returned to the living room he was looking at it. i didn’t say anything and he didn’t ask.

at dinner he asked me “how are things with your friends?” and i said “do you mean the message?” and when he said yes, i told him that all my friends knew he is good with women and that dilf was a joke about that. he wasn’t surprised or angry but he said “maybe you should have more appropriate conversations.” I told him “maybe you should sleep with less women so that girls don’t see you as dilf.” he got mad and said that his private life was none of my business. i told him “your private life is not very ‘private’.” after that he sent me to my room.

i know that maybe i should have spoken better, but it’s hard for me to say anything else when he brings it up. he’s a single man and he’s free to live the way he wants, but his life affects me too. i’m thinking of apologizing for what i said, but that won’t stop me from feeling uncomfortable. AITA?