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The original was posted on /r/transmedical by /u/0leanderB0y on 2025-09-30 07:55:36+00:00.

Edit: specifically talking about ‘FTM femboys’ in this**

Cw as I do discuss chasers, and abuse at one point

This whole wave of tucutes calling themselves ‘trans femboys’ and doing nothing to pass while looking 100% female does nothing but cater to chasers who just want their disgusting ideas about trans men being exotic women to be affirmed.

Maybe I’d care less if it didn’t affect the rest of us who are actually trans, but it does.

Disgusting people are always going to be disgusting, but when there are a bunch of people faking being trans turning it into a caricature pandering to this type shit, they are putting a target on all of us at the same time.

My most recent ex, the more of this content he saw and consumed, the worse he treated me. When I said no to certain things, he originally respected it, but that no became drowned out to him the further he consumed this content. In the beginning his fetish for trans people wasn’t immediately obvious to me and it was extremely subtle, but it became worse and even more disrespectful the more of this content he saw over time.

And the thing that’s killing me, is I’m seeing this more and more lately. Chasers will see this type of content where trans ‘men’ are disrespecting themselves for their pleasure, and they go “well, that means I dont even have to pretend to lie about respecting them now”. This will lead to worse behaviour and treatment and it has literally already happened to me.

And, its just going to lead to more chasers. I’ve seen videos about ‘trans femboys’ getting thousands and thousands of likes on instagram! It actually hurts to see and think of how many more cases like mine there could be.

I know there’s always the argument of “blame the people who see this not the people producing it!!” But i do NOT fucking care. If someone is making what’s effectively kink/fetish content that harms people, whether or not thats the intention really does not fucking matter at all. If the subject of this was something more widely talked about as harmful - one example that comes to mind is straight women pretending to be lesbians for male attention - this would be more condemned, but because these people are tacking the label of being ‘trans men’ onto it, I feel like most people are hesitant to say anything.

I’m sick of this trend. I’m wondering what other people are thinking, this has been knocking around in my head as general vibes for a while but I haven’t been able to sit down and properly articulate it until now. This content and my experience have made me even more scared to be clocked in a dating environment as a gay man. I wish I could just get bottom surgery and top surgery now instead of having to wait any longer, I’m sick of constantly feeling unsafe and watching people actively making it more unsafe laugh and seemingly rub it in our face