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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/aitabear on 2023-09-07 06:12:57.

My wife, kids (12f, 10f, 8m, 6m, 4m), and I just spent 3 weeks at our cabin while we got some repairs done on our house. Our 10 year old, Rose, has leukemia. A lot of the activities around the cabin are outdoors and Rose doesn’t usually have the energy for that, so one of her favorite activities has been watching the wildlife from this big window seat in the master bedroom and taking pictures of what she sees.

Her goal since she started doing this was to see a bear. There are some in the area but it’s not too common to see one. She has me take her up to the window seat after dinner and usually falls asleep watching for bears.

Towards the end of the 3 weeks, I had to take her to the hospital for chemo. 3.5 hours each way. That night she fell asleep in the window seat again and when I got up to carry her to bed, there were 2 bears close to our cabin. I called my wife over to see and I took a picture on Rose’s iPad but my wife wanted to wake Rose up so she could see. She hadn’t gotten to see a bear this trip. I told my wife she needs to rest and that showing her the picture would be enough but my wife still tried to wake her up. I stopped her again and got Rose in bed. The next morning I told Rose that there were bears last night and I showed her the picture. She asked if I woke her up. I said yes because I didn’t want her to get upset but my wife told Rose that I wouldn’t let anybody wake her up. We did not see any more bears for the rest of the trip and Rose has been devastated. She refuses to speak to me and deleted the pictures I took for her because apparently it doesn’t count. She’s even refusing to sleep next to me (she’s been sleeping between me and my wife since she got sick) so my wife has had to sleep in Rose’s room since the trip. My wife is even talking about taking Rose back to the cabin for a week to try to see a bear.

I don’t think it’s a big deal but my wife and Rose are still upset with me so I wanted to know if I was the asshole.