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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/JollyResearch152 on 2023-09-07 14:33:06.

Background: We have been married for 3 years. My mother in law lives with us because my father in law is abusive. My dad pays for our apartment because I’m a medical student, but I’ll be graduating soon. Wife works also but doesn’t contribute towards the household except groceries (which I understand can be expensive). I absolutely adore my mother in law. My wife and mom get along very well also.

Problem: Wife found out she’s pregnant a few days ago. We confirmed with ultrasound yesterday. Obviously since her mom lives with us, we had to tell her. I told my wife we should also tell my mom since her mom already knows. My mom would feel very hurt knowing she wasn’t told, especially if she found out my wife’s mom knew all along. My wife got upset and told me that it’s her body and she should decide who knows. I put my foot down and told her she’s being disrespectful. I have always taken her side but she can’t disrespect my parents like this, especially when they pay for the apartment for both of us and her mom.