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The original was posted on /r/twoxchromosomes by /u/imarealnowheregirl on 2023-09-07 15:36:59.

Basically the title. My bf and I tried to have piv sex multiple times but it hurts like hell, his penis barely fits and I always end up with vaginal tears. Even tho we use tons of lube, a lubed condom, and have like 20-30 minutes of foreplay.

I don’t think it’s vaginismus because, although I have anxiety and low self esteem, I feel very comfortable around my bf, he’s very understanding and kind to me. And, as I said, penetration is not only very painful but it’s also hard, my boyfriend has a hard time inserting his penis inside of me, idk if my skin is too thick or the entrance is too small but it just… it doesn’t fit. I don’t think it’s a psychological thing, I’m pretty sure there’s something wrong with my vagina?

And what makes this whole thing confusing is that a few weeks ago we were kissing while naked and his dick just accidentally slipped inside of me. Ik it sounds absurd but yeah, that happened. It wasn’t painful or anything. It just slipped in lol. After that we started wondering if the problem is the condom we use? Or maybe the way he inserts his dick is incorrect? Idk…

We also tried multiple positions (missionary, doggystyle, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl…). Nothing changed.

Any advice is welcome. I just need to know what is wrong with me :(