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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Pretty-Lavishness764 on 2023-09-07 15:14:53.

I got out of a shitty relationship with my ex. It was a nightmare of a divorce and I got the blame even though the kids know he cheated on me. I got the blame since I asked for the divorce. This happens when our oldest was 15 let’s call him Eric. He was a nightmare at the time. He bullied his younger sibling, I had to drag him to therapy were he refused to talk. We tried people he picked but it was a nightmare. He wanted to live with my ex but he didn’t want him to live with him.

When he went to college I had hope that him spreading his wings will help him since nothing I did worked. It did not, he basically pretended no one existed unless he needed cash. My breaking point with him was he was 21 and I gave him a text asking if he will make it for Christmas. He told me, to beg him to come and he will consider it. I refused, gave an invite and he didn’t show. I kept giving him invites to family events but stopped this year. He is now 25. My two daughter are official no contact with him this year.

We are in contact, but it’s rare we talk. He called yesterday asking if I could talk to his sisters and convince them to met up with him. I told him to leave them alone but he kept going. After I while of him not taking my no for an answer I told him why don’t you beg and I will consider it. He got pissed called me a jerk and hung up.

Maybe I went too far with him but it’s so hard to tell so I came for an outside opinion.