This is an automated archive made by the Lemmit Bot.

The original was posted on /r/exmormon by /u/Tilly-988 on 2025-10-06 18:21:18+00:00.

I feel like Mormonism makes porn use out to be such a big deal when use in moderation is probably fine. However, my spouse and I have been out of the church for 7 years and I’m starting to wonder if his porn use actually IS problematic. While I am by no means an Instagram model, I am not an ugly duckling. I bike commute and have stayed in reasonable shape for my age (33F). While my work clothes are professional rather than provocative, I do wear sleep wear that would be considered scandalous by the TBMs. That being said, in spite of my attempts to be attractive, my spouse finds me unsexy. He complains that I am not able to match his sex drive but he also doesn’t find me attractive enough to bother seducing me. I really don’t know who these sexy women are that he is comparing me to, but I am starting to wonder if he is comparing me to what he sees during porn? I am kind of worried that he is unable to separate the fantasy of porn from reality. I have tried improving myself for so long now, but am starting to reach the conclusion that it will never be enough. Is what I’m dealing with here actually pathologic porn use?