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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Competitive_Menu_105 on 2023-09-07 18:18:30.

I 50F have struggled with fertility for the past 12 years. My husband and I are proud to say that we have an adoptive mother who chose us and got to know us as a family and chose us to be adoptive Parents for our soon to be daughter. The adoptive mother is 19, there is no biological father in the picture and we prefer a closed adoption however the mother has pushed for an open one, we agreed.

Yesterday, our daughters bio mom told us she was in labor and we rushed to the hospital, nevertheless she allowed for her mother to be in the room instead of us , the parents. I don’t understand why I wouldn’t be allowed in the delivery room to see my own daughter be born, but I let it go. Today, she had the baby around 4am this morning and she has allowed over 5 family members see and hold our daughter.

While I understand she may be excited about our daughter arrival, we are concerned about her safety and health #1 and we won’t stand for this. At this point we are just waiting for the papers to be signed over so that we can take it daughter home and raise her properly. My sister feels I am overstepping boundaries and should play this adequately until she signs her over, but I don’t feel I overstepped by expressing myself. AITA?