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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/the_weaponer on 2023-09-07 18:12:44.

Idk if I’m TA here or not, opinions vary so I decided to ask internet strangers. I (16F) have had a bad year. My mom died in Feb and nothing has really gone well since then. She and my bio father were never married and he wasn’t around while I was growing up. I have like a vague memory that he visited once when I was really little but otherwise he hasn’t been around. He says it was because he wasn’t ready to be a dad so it was better that he sent my mom child support and stayed away. Whatever. My mom doesn’t have a lot of family, so when she died my bio father was the one who was asked to take me and he agreed. I wasn’t a fan of the idea but no one really cares what I think and it’s better than being in the group home I was at while they figured everything out. He’s been ok and mostly let’s me do my own thing. His wife Cheryl treats me like I came from juvie and bothers me about every little thing from my clothes to the way I do laundry to telling me not to get in trouble like I can’t just go to school without doing something shady. They have two sons (6 and 3) and the 6 year old mimics her riding my ass. I told my bio father and he said he would talk to her, but now she just does it when he’s not around.

Her family was over to visit this weekend and her mom asked how I was settling in at school. Cheryl commented that I was staying out of trouble. I was nearby and it just hit a nerve so I said “Why do you think I would get in trouble?” She looked embarrassed and said that she knew I came from a rougher area and might not know how things worked here. I asked her what she meant by rougher area and she said it was more “urban”. I think her mom was embarrassed for her and said that she was sure I’ve always been well behaved. I asked Cheryl why she thought living in the city meant I would get into trouble? My bio father walked up then and the subject changed, but later Cheryl was mad because I embarrassed her in front of her mom and “implied things”. I think her mother must have said something. Bio father asked me about what happened and now they’re mad at each other, but he says I should have talked to him instead of picking a fight.