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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/veebee_13 on 2023-09-07 17:40:29.

I manage the house, cook, clean, take care of grocery shopping, look after everything. I also freelance in my spare time. I don’t earn as much as my husband. But somehow, my work is not considered work. My husband does his job comes home and expects to do nothing at home, and society puts him up on a pedestal. I’ve been feeling very underappreciated about it.

One day he came up to me with a list of positions I could apply for. I said I can’t. He says that I’m not ambitious enough and that I am not utilising my full potential. I literally get exhausted with my day. I don’t have the energy or time to do more.

He barely helps me around the house because he’s working 2 jobs.

Was I wrong in putting him down?

Edit: We don’t have kids yet. His parents are old and live with us. I’m expected to take care of them too. He’s working 2 jobs because his students loans were piling up and he was unemployed for a a little while. His total work hours for both jobs are 35 +/- 3 hrs a week .