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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/av8tricks on 2023-09-07 21:46:26.

I (42f) have been married to my husband (56m) for 10+ years. We live overseas and recently were invited to dinner at the home of an American colleague and his Asian wife who is the same ethnicity as my husband. There were others there of the same ethnicity so it was a themed home cooked Asian meal. We had a great time and had some excellent food. Fast forward several weeks and I am out of town on work travel for a few weeks and my husband tells me that one of the single women at the dinner and the wife of another colleague felt bad for him because he doesn’t get home cooked Asian food and offered to come over and cook him a meal while I am away. I told him if it was over at the husband and wife’s apartment, that would be fine, but I really don’t want two women I don’t know rummaging around in our kitchen while I am away. What I didn’t say is that I just don’t think it’s appropriate for my husband to have two women over while I am out of town cooking a meal in our kitchen. If the situation were reversed and it was two men coming over while he was out of town, I don’t know how he would feel. We trust each other and have never had any reason to doubt our fidelity but I just don’t think it is an appropriate ask. I spoke with my husband today and I sense a disappointment since he loves his Asian food and am wondering AITA for telling him I would rather these women not cook at our place?