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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Sad_Towel6278 on 2023-09-08 00:27:41.

My husband and I just got back from a trip where I contracted a nasty bacterial infection in my chest and my sinuses. I don’t think I’ve ever felt that sick before, I’m still sick but no longer feel like I’m dying. Yesterday in the morning I made my famous Get Better Soon Soup that I only make when someone in the family or friends circle is sick. Chopping and slicing and general cooking stuff wiped me the F out, but it was so worth it. Husband was at work and I wanted soup, no big deal.

We often bring his mom food since she lives nearby and we like to help/spend time with her. When my husband came home to me laying on the couch much like a dead fish lays on the beach, he declared the soup smelled amazing and then asked me to put some in to go containers for him and his mom to eat. I just looked at him and very slowly and very quietly said, “I’m still really sick, and I’m the one who had to make the soup, it really took a lot out of me, can you Please do it yourself.” I did not succeed in keeping the annoyance out of my voice. He said yes, also a little annoyed.

As he approached the stove he asked “do you think it’s hot enough for us to eat right away, or will I have to heat it up when I get there?”. And then I lost it. I yelled, I couldn’t help myself, I was so annoyed and shocked at his first question, I really couldn’t handle how incredibly incompetent this new question was. I said “Give me a break, please lord you have to be kidding me. You are a grown man, with hands, and a brain. You cannot be asking me about the temperature of something you’re standing over. Tell me you’re fucking with me.” He was standing there shocked and a little hurt, I felt bad, but not that bad! All he had to do was ladle the soup into the to go containers, he’d be able to feel the heat through the container. Or he could have tried it. Or he could have done literally anything other than ask me that question. Stick your wingwang in there for all I care!

He really didn’t say much, just packed up the soups, and left. Everything is fine, he seems to have chalked it up to ‘she’s sick and in a bad mood’ (which he’s not wrong) and has forgotten about it. I did not apologize, nor has he asked or seemed like he needed one. Everything’s all good but I told my mom this story and she said I was a jerk and should apologize. So, AITA?