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The original was posted on /r/truscum by /u/Equal-Stranger393 on 2025-10-18 17:46:56+00:00.

Something I’ve noticed and I’m sure you guys have too is that tucutes tend to not only fetishize but idealize the other sex. I am going to focus on trans men because I am ftm and have more experience with men and trans men and don’t have enough information on transfems to write about them in detail.

In tucute trans spaces you see that many of them are attracted to and idolize members of that sex that are popular with their agab. You see many transfems are really into anime girls, which are more popular with men than women because the character has masculine traits or is a stereotyped version of women and femininity. Compare this to the people women (including transsexual women) tend to prefer who generally fit societal standards of women and are more genuine portrayals of women. Transmascs often like pretty boy soft or alternative males that are popular with women and almost stereotype maleness, like Rodrick from diary of a wimpy kid and Spencer Reid from criminal minds. While both of these characters are cis men played by cis males, they are not representative of men and don’t fit into societal standards for men. Compare this to guys men tend to prefer, like Ryan Reynolds, Ryan Gosling, and Sam Sulek, who all fit or outperform typical men and male standards and portray a more genuine male experience. I’m not saying liking Rodrick from diary of a wimpy kid means someone is a tucute or trender, but that it points towards having a superficial idea of masculinity.

They also rarely look up to members of their transitioning sex in their life, unlike most cis people that will say that their dad is someone they look up to as a father and man . Of course many trans people have complicated relationships with their families and society but it still is weird that their guideline for masculinity is a rather feminine man that most men don’t see themselves in.