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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/ComfortableFuzzy2045 on 2023-09-08 16:44:19.

My Daughter’s 5th Birthday party is this Sunday, we are hosting the party in our backyard. I (38F) call my SIL (33F) to ask if her and her Husband could come over a little early to watch my Daughter while we set up the party. SIL told me she is going on a bar crawl the night before so she will do her best but she can’t promise anything, it depends how her night goes.

I asked her if she was planning on coming to her nieces birthday hungover, she said once again it depends on how the night goes. I asked her if she thought it was appropriate to come to a child’s birthday party hungover and be around children hungover. She didn’t seem to see a problem with it.

I told her I thought it was immature that she couldn’t control her drinking Saturday night when she knows she has a party the next day its just one night. I get acting like that in your 20s but in your 30s its a little ridiculous. I told her that if she is hungover I would rather her not come to the party at all. She said fine and we have not heard from her since. My husband agrees with me but now MIL and FIL are upset and it is putting a damper on my Daughter’s 5th birthday.