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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/IWantSteamedHams on 2023-09-08 22:27:32.

My wife and I had a new years resolution to do more hands on volunteer work this year. So me, being an IT guy, I found a group that refurbishes computers for students. I thought it was a slam dunk, sounded like an easy thing to do and it was aligned with what I do for a living.

On my first day and orientation, I ran into a guy that I went to school with around 10 years ago. I spent 3 years in school with this guy and I immediately recognized him. The guy is on my LinkedIn as well, so I know him. We did projects together, there are pictures of us at graduation. I 100% know the guy.

I went over to say hi and he was sort of evasive about saying anything to me. I was initially confused because I thought we were on good terms. When I said, “hey man, it’s me from school” he said he knew who I was, but apparently once graduation was done he decided to “move on” from school and be done with it. He told me he wanted to deal with adults and wanted nothing to do with people he went to school with. This was despite the fact that we were now in our thirties, so we weren’t exactly students anymore.

So that kind of hurt, but whatever, I respected his decision and left him alone. There were a dozen other people there so I went about with orientation and everything. I didn’t see the guy again for the rest of the day.

A couple hours later when we were all done I had met a few people who were actually sociable and we decided to go across the street to a pub. I was in a good mood and told them the first round was on me because I had a good day.

So we go over to the pub and that guy shows up and sits down at the table. I asked what are you doing here, I’m not buying you a drink. You don’t know me. Guy called me an asshole and a bunch of other colourful language and walked away. I explained to the group I was with the situation and they were like WTF?

I got an email from the event coordinator yesterday. Apparently the guy complained about me. Said I’m not a team player. Luckily, the coordinator heard my side of the story and was fine with it so I’m good, but I have to continue dealing with this guy if I continue going to volunteer.

So, what the hell. I like the organization an want to continue with it.

A few people have mentioned to me that I should have just bought the guy a drink, but out of principle I won’t but a drink for someone who disrespects me.

Am I the asshole for telling the guy to leave the table at the pub?

Edit: Just for clarification, this was a college friend, not a high school friend.